Getting the Response You Want in Life
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Hi All! Effectively using your frequency to get a positive response from the unseen is something I’ve grappled with for a long time. I’ve studied this for years and have felt ready to write about it coherently only recently.
There are undoubtedly parts of Universe Response Mechanism that will always remain a mystery, but I think that’s also kind of the point, too. If it were simply quid pro quo, there would be no magic, no divine timing in our unique life experiences.
That said, I think it’s a good time to put this out into the world because a lot of us are having trouble trusting the process when everything feels fragile. It’s one thing to have a tough moment in our own lives, because we can usually turn to our friends for support, but when the collective has a tough moment there’s nobody to reassure us that it’s all going to be okay. (Though I will: it’s all going to be okay!)
This may come across as a selfish thing to think about right now, but this mechanism works for everything. This is a time to really lean into what powers you. Because, while we can use this for what we want and need in our individual lives, we can also use this for the whole collective.
Certain forces want us to feel stuck and helpless right now, but we’re not. We can always take action towards what we want, and when we do this together, we’ll get the response and support we need to move forward to a better place. This is how we directly counteract the darkness, by bringing more of our own light into the world.
I work with people who’re in the middle of their own storms and ready to recalibrate and rebuild their lives to so they’re much better than before. Understanding how to the unseen responds to us is part of the process. Today I want to look at the mechanics because they can be applied to everything in your own life, and also the world at large.
I don’t teach Law of Attraction because I think it’s become oversimplified and far too “magical thinking” oriented in this day and age. However, we definitely attract everything that comes into our lives, even when it’s not at all what we want.
Since I do better with linear thinking, I’m going to lay out the steps for you and then describe how they work together below.
A helpful tip is to re-read this newsletter about your vibration: What is Your Frequency or Vibration?. I’ve always hated this term, but it makes more sense when you recognize it as the energy you transmit into the world through your conscious and subconscious thoughts, words, and actions.
It would also be helpful for you to remember the core message of this newsletter: What You Power is What Powers You. It speaks to how you must first generate your frequency internally, and then use it to power your world.
EVERYTHING HAS ITS OWN FREQUENCY
The objective here is to learn how to embody the frequency of what you’re seeking. I teach people how to do this by first holding the vision for what they seek and noticing how it feels. Happy, gross, exciting, impossible? Then, see if you can identify the gap between where you now and where you are in your vision.
This initial step will help you understand your current frequency versus the one you’re seeking to live in. You can also audit how your thoughts, words, and actions have landed you where you are so you can determine what needs to change.
Note: If you find yourself feeling “stuck,” like you can’t relax into your vision no matter how hard you try, then it’s probably time for some healing work. This is the point where people lean into healing their subconscious wounds and old belief systems. (This is what many coaches call “blocks or limiting beliefs.”)
These hardwired beliefs impede on your vibration and lower it without you even realizing it. DO THE HEALING WORK because it frees up your subconscious and conscious mind to more bravely move forward with your elevated thoughts, words, and actions. It makes all the difference.
GET CLEAR ON YOUR EMOTIONS
Your beliefs shape your emotions. This is why your words and actions are essentially your beliefs animated. When you have healthy control over your emotions, your words and actions reflect that.
Your animated beliefs create the signal you send out into the unseen. This signal is like a sonar that’s looking for something to bounce off of. The signal you send out determines the response you get. (This is what coaches mean when they say, “the Universe mirrors your beliefs back to you.”)
Note: This is why the healing work is imperative, because you must believe and embody whatever you’re seeking. You can’t trick yourself or the unseen by engaging in superficial thoughts, words, and actions, while not believing you’re worthy. You must truly believe both consciously and subconsciously you can live this vision, whatever it may be.
Embodiment means you feel comfortable receiving and handling everything when it comes to you. Like you’re already relaxed in the knowing it will arrive. If you’re sending out signals of panic, anger, sadness, frustration, and lack, that experience will be sent back to you.
TAKE ACTION & HAVE FAITH
This is simultaneously the most fun and hardest part. To send out a sharp, strong signal you must take strong action in the direction you want go to. This isn’t about meditating and gentle nudges. This is about taking the whole, more healed version of yourself out into the world, getting out of your comfort zone, and really going for it.
The action you take sends out the signal. The field is infinite, and you don’t know what it will find or what the response will be, but you know something will happen. If you don’t take action, only change your thinking, then you might notice more joy in your regular routine, which is great! But, if you’re seeking change, to reach some things in your life you don’t have yet, you’ll have to do things you haven’t done yet.
Note: I see a lot of people get stuck at the action part. I get it, it’s scary to get out of your comfort zone, but you must summon all your courage and do it if you’re going to send out the strongest signal possible.
TRUST IN DIVINE DIRECTION
This is where your spiritual practice is so important. You must have faith the unseen will respond with exactly what you need at that moment and accept the guidance you receive.
Sometimes you’ll get storm that will clear your path. This won’t feel good at the time but will prove extremely helpful in the longer run.
Sometimes you’ll get a lesson you need to learn that ends up making you stronger and wiser and more prepared to receive what you’re seeking.
Sometimes you’ll get an incredible opportunity that feels like it’s come out-of-blue.
Sometimes you’ll experience a synchronicity that redirects you to a situation even better than you could’ve imagined.
Sometimes you’ll get something else amazing that I can’t describe here because that’s exactly how many possibilities there are - an infinite amount - and it’s impossible for me to imagine them all.
You’ll never not receive a response. Even rejection is a response because it’s keeping you away from something that isn’t meant for you.
It’s important to remember that every response is sent for our personal and collective evolution. This is why we usually end up with a lot of hard responses at first.
The unseen usually needs us to grow and evolve before we can receive what we’re actually seeking. This part is hard, I know, but I always can tell exactly what medicine my clients are receiving and why so we can move this part of the process along quickly!
Note: The responses you receive will happen in the mundane. I can’t stress this enough. They come through when we’re living our lives, interacting with others, and doing normal things. Don’t sit on your couch waiting for miracles to fall from the sky. Responses come through other people and places, so be sure to get out and live your life with trust they will come.
GETTING THE RESPONSE YOU WANT
The truth is, we all want something. Usually, our wants tie back to the basics like money, love, and stability.
When we empower ourselves and settle into our worthiness, before there’s any proof it will appear, we raise our frequency internally. The strong action this translates into sends strong signals into the unseen and we begin to receive viable, tangible results in our life.
I think of it like a staircase, we’re all raising our frequencies bit by bit, receiving more and giving more each time. So long as we do this work with integrity and gratitude we can truly live in the world of infinite possibilities. (This is what many coaches call the quantum field. They say you “quantum leap” whenever you upgrade your vibration and jump into living the next reality you seek.)
The phrase “quantum leap” is too magical thinking for my taste, I prefer to think of it as putting yourself into forward motion effectively, so you heal, grow, and walk comfortably into the next level you want to be living.
PICTURE THIS…
I’m not a good artist, but I’m always trying to draw out the unseen like an energy grid with all of us bobbing around in it at different levels, with the lives we seek bobbing around at other levels. Our bodies are giving off little signals, like radio waves, to help us match with what we seek. Our spirit guides and angels are flitting around us like little fairies. They protect us and bring us the exact experiences we need to get us where we want to go, even when it’s the tough medicine we need to grow.
If anyone wants to give this illustration a try, let me know!
HIGH SELF WORTH = STRONG VIBRATION
One of the reasons I spend a whole week on role models with my clients is because it’s very helpful to spend time with people already embodying the vibration you want to be at. It teaches you and helps your body synchronize with what this feels like.
This also goes for studying books, videos, and whatever else you need to heal your subconscious wounds and undo old belief systems. Do whatever it takes to remind yourself of your complete, innate worthiness. The higher your subconscious self-worth, the stronger your vibration.
Lastly, when you’re seeking a next level after the storm, I encourage people to focus on the bridge. I always say, “dream bigger,” so you stretch yourself, but never so much bigger it feels totally impossible at the time. Trying to skyrocket to a life you can seek in the distance is fantasy thinking and doesn’t serve you well.
This goes for the collective too. As we navigate fragile times, I encourage you to work out what makes sense as the right next step to bring us all back to center.
LET’S GET THE RESPONSE YOU’RE LOOKING FOR…
I hope this helps demystify a few things for you. As you can tell, I struggle with a lot of the fantastical marketing in the self-development world and the terminology it employs.
There is actually a pattern, a method to all of this, and it’s not too hard to grasp when you bring it down to reality. I think people who want to escape their reality get drawn into the fantasy of easily taking quantum leaps like master escape artists. But I encourage you to carefully consider what you’re seeking before you do this. The best way to get the response you seek is studying yourself deeply first, then doing the work in the external world.
If you empower yourself to have command of your thoughts, words, and actions, and do the necessary healing work along the way, you’ll always get wherever you want to go.
These are the concepts I coach. It takes time and is always worth it.
I know that we all have the ability to do this work and shape the reality we seek.
If you’ve experienced a life storm and are ready to reconstruct life so it’s even better than it’s ever been I’m happy to work with you.
It’s all there for you when you decide it’s time.
Trust yourself and be well.
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